Short Distance Moves

[Ragin'Raven]

Anyone ever done one? My husband would get angry with me even talking about it (because I've brought it up before, and that was his reaction ). I fell in love with the house and area more than I did the actual logistic side of it. For example, we live on a road, not inside a subdivision. I find myself driving sometimes, and I'll pull into a subdivision just to look at the houses. It hasn't even been two years since we moved here, by the way. In Gainesville, we lived in a neighborhood. When we moved up here, we wanted a quiet place. My husband wanted a quiet place is a better way of putting it. Now that the boys are growing older, I want them to have a place to ride their bikes instead of just our driveway. I remember playing hide-n-seek with neighborhood kids when I was younger. I want my boys to have those interactions. There are kids along the road, but many of the playdates we have involve packing the boys in the car to drive to someone's house. I'm venting on here because my mother has already heard me talk about this numerous times, and my husband doesn't want to hear it. On one of my parenting message boards, a lady told me that she has done two different short distance moves, and she had some helpful tips for me. The biggest problem I have is that my husband would never buy into the thought of it. So am I crazy for wanting to move to a neighborhood?!? I will be the first to admit that I am partly to blame. I fell in love with this house and the big yard. Silly me for letting my heart take lead over my head at the time.

 

Done with the vent, thank you. If you actually got through all that, I need to buy you a drink.

[Mt. Crushmore]

With your kids, it depends on the neighborhood.  I grew up in one, but there was nobody my age around so I didn't have those interactions that you talked about.  If you are doing it for them, it would be wise to see what the ages of kids in the surrounding houses are if possible.

 

Now where is my drink

[SecretAgentMan]

Nope. But I've moved from one side of the country to another... Twice. 

 

But I think your kids are too young to be severely effected. So yeah... 

 

I lived in Dayton for 10 years. 

[MissK528]

I turn 28 near the end of May and I'm on my 10th address. I've mostly lived in the same general areas, but moving all the time has made me borderline pathological about eventually buying a house and staying there until I die - I absolutely DO NOT want to move every two or three years for the rest of my life. 

 

So no, I don't think you're crazy. What I would recommend is staying in the same school district though so your kids (assuming they're young here based on the tiny human in your avatar) can actually play with their classmates after school. Somehow we managed to keep me in the same elementary school but it was a 20 to 30 minute drive away from school and the bus was so not coming out that far. From kindergarten to the summer before 5th grade, I had school friends, and then I had neighborhood friends. Double the friends is kind of okay, except you always know you won't see your friends from school OUTSIDE of school...

[1/28/01]

Live in Glen Arm on 2 acres and no one around. Wouldn't have it any other way! Then again, I tend to hate most all people I meet.

[Purple Nurple]

Dewers on the rocks. Splash of water. Thanks.

[CalvinSmoke]

whisky sour for me

[Jokerraven]

I just did a short distance move in November, it was an easy smooth move one of the best I have had and there were a lot , grew up an army brat .It wasn't as costly as other moves . My move was to downsize last kid in college one getting married the other in the Marines . You also have very valid reasons for moving its wonderful living in a neighborhood where kids can interact with others. Right a list of positives  present it you your husband perhaps he will change his mind.

 

Mudslide for me

[Ragin'Raven]

Nope. But I've moved from one side of the country to another... Twice. 

 

But I think your kids are too young to be severely effected. So yeah... 

 

I lived in Dayton for 10 years. 

I have had two major moves in my life. One was from Ohio to Florida. The other was from Florida to Maryland. You're right. My boys are young, and that's why I'm looking to the future. 

 

With your kids, it depends on the neighborhood.  I grew up in one, but there was nobody my age around so I didn't have those interactions that you talked about.  If you are doing it for them, it would be wise to see what the ages of kids in the surrounding houses are if possible.

 

Now where is my drink

That is very true! I usually do a quick run of basketball goals and playlets. If I see them in people's yards, and they still look kept up, I assume there are kiddos. 

 

I turn 28 near the end of May and I'm on my 10th address. I've mostly lived in the same general areas, but moving all the time has made me borderline pathological about eventually buying a house and staying there until I die - I absolutely DO NOT want to move every two or three years for the rest of my life. 

 

So no, I don't think you're crazy. What I would recommend is staying in the same school district though so your kids (assuming they're young here based on the tiny human in your avatar) can actually play with their classmates after school. Somehow we managed to keep me in the same elementary school but it was a 20 to 30 minute drive away from school and the bus was so not coming out that far. From kindergarten to the summer before 5th grade, I had school friends, and then I had neighborhood friends. Double the friends is kind of okay, except you always know you won't see your friends from school OUTSIDE of school...

 

That's my problem. We haven't even been here for two years, and my husband lets me know that when I talk about wanting to get the boys into a neighborhood atmosphere. In terms of school, my boys are in a private school (one is, the other two aren't old enough yet). As long as it's relative distance, we can stay there without a problem. Right now, it's around 10 minutes. 

Live in Glen Arm on 2 acres and no one around. Wouldn't have it any other way! Then again, I tend to hate most all people I meet.

 

 

Dewers on the rocks. Splash of water. Thanks.

I will see what I can do for you. 

 

whisky sour for me

I'm working on it.

 

I just did a short distance move in November, it was an easy smooth move one of the best I have had and there were a lot , grew up an army brat .It wasn't as costly as other moves . My move was to downsize last kid in college one getting married the other in the Marines . You also have very valid reasons for moving its wonderful living in a neighborhood where kids can interact with others. Right a list of positives  present it you your husband perhaps he will change his mind.

 

Mudslide for me

It all just hit me one day when the boys and I were outside. It was during one of the storms we had come through this past Winter, and a friend of mine sent me a text showing her kids outside with about 7-10 other kids. They were all huddled in the snow together building snowmen and forts. Here I was, standing in the middle of our backyard, with two of my kids. Now that was a few months back. It took me until about early March to actually say anything to my husband about it. I think I do have valid reasons to want to move, and I'm not necessarily talking about packing up and going tomorrow. I just want someone (ahem) to admit that he feels like it could be a positive thing too. 

 

Thank you guys for actually reading that first message. I read through it and needed a drink after it myself!